Families

It is almost always hard for working girls to decide what to tell one’s family. In most cases, the girls prefer not to tell their parents that they are earning their money through fucking men.

At lot of the overseas girls I know have had babies and have left their children with their parents. These girls usually send money back to them. These parents might guess that their daughters are hookers and might not be surprised – a lot of the parents are poor and poorly educated - often from very conservative country areas – they think that once a girl has lost her virginity, she becomes unsuitable to be a wife. The parents often disapprove a lot of their daughter since she has had a baby outside marriage or has divorced her husband. However, often parents’ love is more forgiving and they protect their grandchildren and try to turn a blind eye to their daughter’s “misbehaviour” – unfortunately, in quite a few cases the parents forgive less because of love than because of the money they are receiving earned by their daughter’s cunt.

The case of husband or boyfriends is slightly different – quite a few are happy to live off their partner selling herself – especially in the case where they also live in Australia – that said, quite a few partners do not know and would be destroyed if they found out.

As for children, almost all the girls I know are paranoid about their children not knowing what they do.

The girls I am talking about are mainly the Thai, Chinese, Filipinas etc who work at the place. So often their stories are so similar. The ones I have been closer to seem, however, to have more varied stories.

Anna was the most different – her mother actually encouraged her and her three sisters to work and even found someone to get Anna a job in Bangkok. Her mother told them that the best way to earn money was through what you had and they all had good looks and pussies – so use them. Her mother was a hooker and Anna told me proudly that she had had 6 babies with 6 different fathers.

Jane was the mistress of a rich businessman in China when she was about 17 – when she turned 20 she had reached her “use-by” date and the man paid her off by sending her to study in Australia– he also gave her an introduction to a brothel here – telling her that she might as well work since she was a used woman. In Australia, she fell in love with a woman called Linda. Her family only half knew about her and the businessman and did not know at all that she was a prostitute. They could not accept at all their daughter was gay and pressured her into marrying and having a family.

Sue lived in Sydney as a teenager. She ran away from home after her parents locked her up following finding her in bed with a schoolmate (a boy – it wasn’t until later that Sue found she preferred women). Sue ran away and has been working ever since – at first on the streets and then later in the parlours. It is a long story and I always admire Sue her strength. Sue told me she is pretty sure her parents and family know she is a hooker but they have disowned her completely as an immoral woman.

Lisa’s mother died when she was about 10 and her father died when she was 15. After that her uncle took over her “care”. He raped her and then let his friends enjoy her, before selling her to a brothel in Manila. From what I gather, her parents were most loving and her father was a schoolteacher – she says that is why her English is better than most. She still mourns the loss of them and hates her uncle with an intensity that cannot be described.

Annette’s family do not, I think, know that she has worked as a hooker. They have found it hard enough to adjust to her lifestyle: they came to accept her lesbian relationship with Lin and were a bit relieved when she started a straight relationship with John and got pregnant – although John was older than would have hoped for. But then they were confronted even more when she entered into a three-way relationship with me and John. I think they feel very uneasy with me, although both the mother and father are always so polite and nice to me. They are just so supportive of their daughter. Annette’s 17 year old sister thinks the whole thing is “just so cool” and distresses her parents even more by saying that she wants to do exactly the same thing- Annette, John and I have all told her to wait until she is older before thinking such things.

As for me, I have spoken to my mother since my father’s funeral and at that time she called me a shameful slut and told me to stay away from my brothers and sister so as not to corrupt them. I find this very hypercritical since dad told me before he died that he had had to marry her because she was in trouble and when she was young, she was quite promiscuous and he wasn’t sure which were his real children – I found that so upsetting that I had a DNA test and confirmed that I, at least, am his. I have now completely lost contact with my family. I figure I got my sluttishness from my mother and my honesty from my dad.

The reason for this blog entry really comes from taking a phone call from Annette’s mother yesterday. Annette was out and we talked longer than we have ever done so before. What really impressed me about Annette’s parents was when she asked if she could say something frank to me and then said “Probably you don’t think much of us but my husband and I both love our two daughters very much. We want to be on good terms with you and John if you are willing. We never want to lose contact with Annette. We have talked it over a lot nd we just want whatever is best for our daughter – so please be patient with us”. I assured her that John and I both valued Annette’s ties with them and wanted to reinforce not weaken them. I assured her that we both cared deeply for Annette and never wanted to harm her – we were all excited about the baby and hoped that it would enjoy be a strong united extended family. I also said that we hoped that they would be patient with us.

I finished the conversation feeling even more that I should be most respectful of Annette’s parents. Already, Annette’s father is one of the few men with whom I try to behave respectably – it is almost automatic that I flirt a bit with every man. I also felt quite envious of Annette for having such wonderful and loving parents. On the other hand, I guess I was lucky to have a great dad and I still miss him so.

Friday 5 December 2008 - 04:25PM (EST)